Get In a Receiving Mode: An Example

by Scott Noelle

(Continued from here)

Your child has forgotten to flush the toilet for the umpteenth time this week, and you’re feeling increasingly frustrated.

Your child can feel your expectation of continued frustration. S/he is naturally cooperative and will continue to meet your unspoken expectation until you put yourself in a receiving mode:

1. Assume that what you want is already on its way.

“My child knows what I want, and it’s only a matter of time before s/he gets it down. (Literally!) With my emotional cross-currents out of the way, s/he’ll easily settle into a new competency that s/he can feel good about...”

2. Enjoy your expectation of satisfaction and silently give thanks in advance.

“I feel good now when I imagine my child successfully forming a good habit. The success is not just the outcome but the whole process, which has already begun. I’m grateful that all I have to do is ‘find the feeling place’ of having what I truly want, and my child will naturally tend to align with it...”

3. Be willing to wait “forever” for the answer/fulfillment.

“I create satisfaction from within, unconditionally, so there’s no hurry. I can actually enjoy waiting and witnessing the unfolding process. I like the whole story, not just the last chapter. The fulfillment is just the icing on the cake!”

Does that mean you’ll never again remind your child to flush? No. But if/when you do, it won’t feel like nagging or pleading; it’ll be an expression of your positive expectation.

Originally published on 2006-10-19
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